Brain, Body and Buess

Anytime we sense fear in our lives we could easily read this as a signal for change. Particularly if it is recurring. Some of you may know FEAR as standing for False Expectations Appearing Real. The dictionary definition is an 'unpleasant emotion that is caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat'.

As I get nearer to approaching my 50th year the insights I have on my life to this point seem to be coming thick and fast. Maybe it is some of the people I have been mixing with, maybe the burning inside me that if I don't get some of this stuff done then it's going to be too late. Maybe it's not having the physical demands of a young family and learning now about what I really want to teach my kids.

I have begun to ponder the meaning of what it is to be human. A friend of mine recently quoted we are human beings, not human doings, which got me thinking ...

Generally speaking, the western world has equated life success as being a list of accomplishments and material acquisitions. Our education, possessions and things we have done ...

Resilience will be one of the major success factors in life as we move deeper into this century. Given how far technology has come in the last 10 years, it is almost hard to fathom what the next 10 years will deliver. Our children are being educated for jobs we don't even know exist yet and the foundations of what they may need to know have not yet been embedded into the standards of traditional school education. This lack of certainty will require development of good coping skills and the ab...

One of my favorite questions was 'What would you attempt if you knew you could not fail?'

Our fear of failure can hold us back and cause us to do nothing at all. By allowing fear to hold us back, we are likely to miss some of life's greatest opportunities. We attach FEAR (False Expectations Appearing Real) and shame to failure. This fear and shame can stem back from our childhood years where we may have been undermined or humiliated by our parents or teachers.

How often do you catch yourself saying or doing things that you don't like? Maybe you continually get a response from others that result in a communication breakdown. On the pathway to change, the first thing is to notice what you can change!

If there is an area of your life that doesn't sit well, then just take notice.

I earned my Master of Business Adversity on the job, like many business owners.

In your business, you may think that if your people worked like a team, maybe things would be better. Do you see or hear about things your people are doing and don't like? Do you have problems addressing it? Often when you are caught up in the day to day running of the business it can be hard to address these situations and dealing with the emotion of the situation.

As with any destination we seek, we require a map or plan as to how to get us there. Simplistically speaking, we may want to travel to the next neighboring town. Whilst there are a few variables, you will already have a pretty good plan of how to get there. Your variables could include how much time it will take, your mode of transport, stops you may want to make on the way and if you prefer the direct or the scenic route.

When you are considering this, you probably think that ...

Before we can begin to master change, we need to look into what the current benefits of not changing are. If you are stuck in a rut of running your business a certain way you may be avoiding a bigger issue that you see as too difficult to overcome. Issues may include confrontation, lack of resources or fears around success or failure. This could be known as the elephant in the room.